How to Introduce In-Home Care to Your Loved One
Imagine yourself at an advanced age when, after a whole lifetime of taking care of yourself and managing the details of your life, you’re told that the job is no longer yours – that it’s time for someone else to take over.
You’d probably be scared, frustrated, and even indignant.
And yet, you’d know that at your age, certain daily tasks are more difficult or outright exhausting. Somewhere inside you, the idea of help would likely be welcome, but if you’re like most of us, you’d want that help to be on your terms.
If you are currently in the process of trying to convince a loved one of the benefits of in-home care, the above scenario may be similar to what your aging family member is experiencing. Your success in getting your loved one to accept help will depend on you doing three important things:
- Going slowly
- Starting with where the help is welcome
- Allowing your loved one to dictate some of the terms
Want more details? Take a look at the following tips on how to introduce in-home care to your loved one.
Introducing In Home Care to Your Loved One
When introducing in-home care to your loved one, especially when the idea is met with resistance, it’s important to take it one step at a time. A gradual introductory process will allow your loved one to get to know the caregiver and to accept the benefits of in-home care with a sense of dignity and control.
Start with the path of least resistance
If you know your loved one despises cleaning, introduce the in-home caregiver as a housekeeper, and begin the relationship with minimal hours and duties limited to housekeeping. If your loved has a least favorite chore, such as cooking, or a particularly difficult task, such as driving to the grocery store and doctor’s appointments, start there. This will go a long way toward your loved one accepting the help as a gift rather than a nuisance.
Encourage involvement in the process
Let your loved one help define the “housekeeper’s” responsibilities. Having some say in the matter will help your loved maintain a sense of independence and control.
Explain the progression to the caregiver
It is important that your in-home caregiver understands the importance of going slowly. Explain your plan to introduce additional duties when the time feels right.
Introduce new duties casually
When you get the feeling that your loved one has relaxed and is possibly even warming to the companionship, have the caregiver to call before heading over and ask if your loved one needs anything. The more casual the introduction of new duties, the less resistance they’ll be met with. The caregiver can help assess your loved one’s readiness to accept any additional assistance.
Allow for setbacks, but stay committed
Remember that accepting in-home care is especially difficult for those who see it as a loss of independence and usefulness. Even after giving in to the idea, there may be times when fear surges, and the assistance/companionship is suddenly unwelcome or intolerable. If this is the case, allow your loved one to express these feelings. It’s important to listen with understanding, but to stay committed, too. The setbacks are temporary, but the benefits of in-home care keep your loved one safe and healthy in the long-term.
Our caregivers understand the importance of independence and dignity
At Avalon Home Care in Carlsbad, we know how difficult the aging process can be, and our caregivers treat each client with the dignity and respect they deserve. Our full range of home care services can be tailored specifically to meet your loved one’s needs. We offer everything from social companionship to Parkinson’s Care, and from shopping and bill paying to bathing and toileting – and everything in between. Our goal is to give your loved one quality care in the comfort of home.
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